We all go through seasons in our lives where we have to play the waiting game, whether it is for a job, a partner, a big break in your career or business, a child. Sometimes, we are waiting on multiple things at the same time. I have seen so many different pieces of advice regarding this topic, which I agree with. But you guys know i keep it 100% real. Waiting for two weeks is alot different to waiting for 6 months, two years, even five years or more!
Sometimes that hope and faith disintegrates into nothing-ness, when you see people around you getting the very thing you want and may have been praying for. And they did not have to wait! I mean when you are looking for a job for 6 months, going through interview after interview and someone around you gets a job in less than two weeks. When you have been trying for a baby for years, and someone around you just ‘falls’ pregnant in a drop of a hat ‘without even trying’ and so on.
What are you supposed to do in those situations where your faith starts to waver because you are looking at the situation and it seems as though there is no end in situation. You cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel, all you can see is darkness right now.
Build up your skills or interests in other areas.
I think the worst thing that we can do is put all our focus and energies into that one thing or the multiple things we are waiting on.
It increases our worry, anxiety and negative thoughts on that thing. Start to build yourself up in other areas. Perhaps you are waiting for a new start, why not start developing your hobbies? Or your interests?
You never know what you might discover. Perhaps you are waiting for your partner, start developing yourself as a person, travel, meet new people.. Perhaps you are waiting for a big break, take courses, start working on your hobbies etc. By you developing yourself in other areas, you will feel less stressed and less worried.
Talk about it.
No problem is new under the sun and no man is an island. Sometimes, just a few encouraging words from a friend can make you feel so much better. You can get inspiration, feel more focused, and even find a solution to the problem from just talking to someone.
I think sometimes we get so caught up in maintaining a front, or plastering a smile on our faces even though we are crying on the inside, that we forget that a problem shared is a problem halved.
I personally find this the hardest, because it is so easy for me to think negative thoughts and this is something that I am working on. Think positive, speak positive and be positive. Don’t just say the words, believe them. A change will come, the change you have been after will come. It may take longer than you anticipated, but it will come. Joy will come in the morning.
Don’t allow jealousy and envy to creep in.
This is pretty self explanatory. It is easy to see others ‘winning’ and feel jealousy. Smile and actually mean it when the people around you are winning.
It is easy to get so consumed with what you are waiting for that, that we forget the great things that are happening around us. Focus on that.