I think all of us, in some way, shape or form is juggling two or more things at the same time. Whether it is career and a relationship, being an entrepreneur and seeing friends, or being a working mum. Personally I believe that life requires us to juggle multiple things at once. There is a difference between taking on too much and just juggling different aspects in life.
Here are my 5 tips that will help you when you are balancing multiple things.
SCHEDULE AND PLAN YOUR TIME WELL
Now, this has helped me in every aspect of my life from my career, being a mum and blogging.
If you see my schedule, you will laugh because it is so detailed. For example, my daughter goes to bed at 8pm, not 8:45, but 8pm everyday. Come rain or sunshine. It is not easy, but she needs a routine. So in my schedule, I have allocated 30 mins from 7:30 to 8pm to get her ready for bed. Bubble bath, story time and bed. When I am blogging, I decide what I am going to post two weeks in advance. I allow myself the flexibility to change a post at the last minute, but the skeleton of every post must be written at least a week in advance. It helps me to also decide what pictures I need. I find that if you plan your time well, you have time to do what you really enjoy or other hobbies. I try to schedule everything I do. Be mindful that things do not always go to plan, there days when my daughter looks me straight in the eyes and says ‘No! no sleepy-time!’ I know that you cannot control everything, but planning and scheduling goes a long way in helping you to stay on top of things.
DO NOT NEGLECT YOUR EMOTIONAL WELL-BEING
Now I know what it feels like when everyone wants a piece of you: career, friends, family (not in order of importance) etc, but it is important for you to have a moment regularly where you just focus on yourself. It could weekly, monthly, or quarterly. Always remember that you need time where you can just focus on yourself and do something you really enjoy.
For me, it is doing my hair and nails. Once a month, I go to hairdressers and nails salon by myself and just make myself feel pwetty! Go get ‘em girl! When I leave, I feel refreshed and ready to take the day. You guys may not be as ‘shallow’ as me (Shout out to all my ‘shallow’ ladies haha!) but even if it is something as simple as going for a facial, going to your favourite restaurant or chill out spot and having a coffee, it is important. Try and schedule some regular time for yourself. It is important to recharge our batteries in the midst of juggling multiple things. Running on empty for too long is not good for your emotional, physical and spiritual well-being. Sometimes even something as simple as picking up your favourite book and reading it in a quiet place can be enough to recharge your batteries.
A PROBLEM SHARED IS A PROBLEM HALVED
If I told you how many times I suffered in silence when I had too much things on the go, you would actually question my sanity! I always felt that for something to be done properly, I needed to be the one to do it.
Now I know that this isn’t true. There are people around you that can help. The smallest amount of help can be golden in a hectic and stressful situation. Learn how to open up to your friends who can help and let them know if you are struggling in an area. Sometimes, we are so concerned about keeping up a front or a brave face that we forget that the people around us can help to ease some of the pressure. Why not ask a friend to help you to find the bridesmaids’ dresses? Why not ask your mum or someone you trust to help you look after your children while you spend some time alone? Don’t try and carry everything on your shoulders. Good friends and family are there to help.
KEEP IT MOVING!
Do not waste your time focussing on things that don’t matter. I specifically mean situations that are centred around drama or negativity. There is no point. Focus on situations that cause you to grow spiritually, emotionally, physically into the fabulous and amazing woman that you aspire to be, in pursuit of her destiny. Situations centred around drama and negativity always become draining and unfortunately can take up too much of our time and attention.
As I grow older, I have decided to keep it moving when I am faced with these type of situations. I try not to be moved by these situations anymore because at the end of the day life is too short to be stressing over them. You can either allow these situations to bring you down and cause you lose focus or keep it moving! When you are juggling a lot of things, these situations can cause you to drop the ball on other areas of your life. Just because you are so focused on that one negative comment, that one manager who dislikes you, that one person that keeps on telling you that what you are pursuing is a waste of time! Either you face the problem or walk away from it. Please don’t just stay in that situation and suffer. I actually believe that by staying in that situation and not addressing it, you are encouraging it to take up more of your precious time!
YOU DO NOT HAVE TO PLEASE EVERYONE
I am so protective of my time that I had to drop my ‘people-pleaser’ mentality. The thing is, I have been a people-pleaser since I was in the womb! Slight exaggeration but I have been a people-pleaser since I can remember. I used to basically ‘live’ to make everyone happy. Let me tell you something, it was a wasted effort because I could never make everyone happy. Why? Because everyone has different likes, different dislikes, different life experiences that it is virtually impossible to make every single person happy. Some of us take on tasks or things simply because we want to make the other person happy. Not because we have the capacity or the time to.
Honey, if you keep on doing this, you will get to a point where you will begin to feel the burn. I had to learn how to say ‘no sorry, I really can’t do it’ even to my friends and family. The first time you say it, you may get looks like you are the antichrist! But trust me, it is better to be honest in the beginning rather than waiting till the last minute and subsequently disappointing people.
If your friends or family are upset with you, then oh well, life goes on! You DO NOT have to please everyone. You CAN NOT please everyone.
Just because you drop a ball does not mean you are a failure, it is just the way things are. Pick yourself back up and continue. It happens to all of us, trust me!
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